Dear Future Husband,
You may currently be dating a wrong woman; well all I can say is good luck with that break up. Only then, will I come to your life and sweep you off your feet. Or maybe you are meeting up the nasty ones through those matrimonial sites, well no pressure, but when do you plan to cross paths with me? Not that I am desperate to be married, but well I do sometimes succumb to the pressure of my family, facebook posts (Oh, not just the engagement ones, but everyone is in a hurry to make babies too) and married best friends! They want to dance and be drunk like crazy on my wedding. Yup, they want to save the craziest days of their lives for my, oh pardon me, “our” wedding.
These matrimonial sites do not seem to be working for me, so can I get a hint, like a subtle one, whenever you are around somewhere at a friend’s party I attend, oops yet again “we” attend. Alternatively, if there is some other way you think we could meet, could you pitch some signs towards me. Like I am in no hurry to marry, but I really want to get rid of that question mark from the person next to me in pictures.
Before I continue, a disclaimer-If you are the man, who cannot bear a talkative woman, who talks her heart out, well then that salutation in the beginning is not for you. If you want me to quit non-veg food, or quit on any of my friends, well you can quit on this letter at this moment. Moreover, if you are someone, who earns a lot and therefore thinks you deserve the prettiest and perfect female who cannot err, that is not me, apologies. Lastly, if you are someone who does not understand the difference between a Tinder and a Shaadi.com, well yet again, please no.
Now, Mr. Future Husband, do you know what I think would be the best part about us. With age, settles in maturity, one becomes more independent and thus looks for more practical aspects and compatibility rather than superficial things. Well my expectations from a marriage when I was a 25 year old (I was not ready then) were much different from what they are now. So will be yours, and yet we will chose each other, that would be the best part.. Both of us would have had our share of experiences in life as adults, we would have learnt a lot, yet we will choose each other. Now, what can be better than that?!?
I love to travel, I have travelled in India and abroad, and I will continue to do so. However, I have saved a couple of places for us to visit together. I am dying to visit these places, so you see another reason for us to meet soon. So please, like a pretty please, make sure to ask me where do I want to go for “our” honeymoon. Oh and just so you know, I like sports, so you see, if we go to places on my wish list, you will be allowed to be glued to those matches on TV, or maybe we can go together to the stadium to watch those. What say? 😀
Keeping lighter things aside, since you and I would have waited patiently for each other, we will make sure that it works well for us. There would be arguments of course, life is no fun without them, but we will make sure to pamper each other after that. At least I hope so, because there should be some childishness in every relationship, no matter how level headed we become.
PS: To the society, who thinks, “what is wrong with this generation, these women don’t want to settle down”.
On behalf of the women in their late 20’s or early 30’s who are not married yet, I would like to say, we choose not to succumb to the pressure of society and marry just anyone but would rather wait for “the one”. Yes, we are independent, want to succeed in our careers but that does not imply we are against the concept of marriage; we just do not want to settle down with the wrong one. If the right one comes our way, we are more than willing to say, “I do”, but if we have not crossed paths yet, give us more time, the world is too big and human lifespan too long.
(Applies for the opposite sex too)